I don’t subscribe to any fear based teachings on any subject, because of that I have a lot more fun, joy, excitement, passion and lots more good stuff. Here is one of my methods of operation.
How I handle being in a negative situation that I didn’t want to be in.
When I find myself in a really volatile and angry situation and feeling negative and guess what? I always have a negative out come. Can you relate? So what did I do to change my outcome? I had to right in that moment change how I was thinking and feeling about it. I did not have to try to change the other person that is mission impossible. I focused only on me and how I was showing up to the situation.
I acknowledged to myself that I was making myself feel less than because the situation was not where I thought it should be. So I interrupted my pattern of negative thought and said to myself
Nothing is more important than my well being and I will not use this situation as an excuse to think less of myself. I will not let the negative opinion of someone change how I feel about me. I then followed that thought with I’m responsible for how I feel and everyone and everything is off the hook. I kept holding that thought in myself until I could feel the shift in my emotions. Once I felt the shift I said this to myself. How does this work to my advantage?
What that opened up in me was a new way of thinking that was beneficial to the situation. I was feeling better and that made room to have a better feeling outcome. I operate from a place of I don’t have to prove this person, place or thing wrong for me to be right. In fact there is no right or wrong just how I choose to feel.
So I decided that I’m going to feel good no matter the outcome and then the situation no longer had a negative effect on me. It is just as simple as saying to another person “look I choose to not put my energy into unproductive thoughts and feelings I want to feel good about this as I’m sure you do as well. I refuse to make you accountable for how I feel. Let us both find the solution that works best for both of us shall we? If they were open for it great we found a positive solution right there. If they were still in the victim and blaming mode and were not ready for it, they left or I did. See I shifted myself from angry to less angry to less angry to less angry or another way to say it is I gave myself a thought that produced relief, which lead to a thought that produced relief, which lead to a thought that produced relief. Relief is the cure that I was looking for.
I would rather think back about a person, place or thing and be happy with them as a memory, than be there presently with them and be sad. Are you with me? Of course you are. Have fun with this, be easy with this, life is good and so are you.