Elin B.: Hello, and welcome to Ready, Set Grit: Your Life. On Purpose., a weekly podcast in which we talk about the secrets behind turning your daydreams into incredible successes.
I’m Elin Barton, and today my guest is Jeoffrey Hutcherson. The first time I saw Jeoffrey, it was on a video for a training I was doing, and he had such energy and presence that I just thought, “Wow. I want to hang out with this guy. He knows what’s going on,” and I was really thrilled when he agreed to be on the show.
Jeoffrey, who is also known by many as Hot Chocolate, is working on his third book. He is a speaker. He’s a coach. He’s a Law of Attraction expert. And I would like to welcome him to the show.
Jeoffrey. Thank you.
Jeoffrey H.: Oh, thank you for having me. This is gonna be a blast.
Elin B.: Yeah, I am really excited. And I want to just dive in and start out talking about happiness. Now that’s a subject of one of your books. And right now, you know, in the country … in the United States right now, the political climate is a little angry. You know, people are angry, everybody seems a little on … well, a lot on edge, and angry. Now angry is a word that I just keep hearing every time I turn on the TV, which I do very rarely.
But what’s the deal? Like if everyone’s angry, how can we get happier? How do we get ourselves to happy?
Jeoffrey H.: Well, that’s the cool thing of really understanding what your emotions are telling you at that point. You know, if everyone’s angry, I have one simple rule. Look,
life is either something to feel good about or something to feel bad about.
You get to choose what that is all day, every day. So if you are looking at something and saying, “This is not the way that I think it needs to be, so that I can choose to feel good,” man, you’re just giving your power away right in that moment, because as happy as I get, yes, there can be times when I am less than happy? And even when I am less than happy, I acknowledge the fact that, hey, I’m doing this to myself. And I’m gonna change my mood.
This is a really fun analogy. Let’s just say your emotions can be roller coasters, and right now, you are getting on the not-happy roller coaster, and you’ve got so much momentum because you thought one thought that makes you unhappy, You think another thought that makes you unhappy. You think one more thought that’s made you unhappy. Now, you’ve got some really excellent momentum going. But it’s negative momentum. And so, from that point, you need to just shift your gears.
Let’s just say you’re gonna pop some parachutes to slow down your momentum and go, “You know what? I’m actually hurting myself by being this angry. By making this as an excuse to feel bad about myself, and about my life, and to make me feel powerless. I’m gonna stop this now. And I’m gonna shift gears and to think more of an empowering thought.” Because guess what? Did you know that nothing has to change so that you can choose to feel good?
Elin B.: That makes sense.
Jeffrey H.: Seriously! Nothing has to change so that you can choose to feel good. You know, I get flat tires. I get all sorts of … Life just happens to me too. But the point of my allowing life happening, and not getting upset about it, is because of the fact that … Look. Life just happens, and it does what it does. But I still remember that I get to choose how I feel in every moment.
So if you are angry, sure. Go ahead, ride it out. But then know, at some point, you’re just gonna die down and let it burn itself out and then switch to something else, where you don’t have to be as angry.
You need to learn to transform that energy into something that can be empowering for you. You know, sometimes when I get angry, I go work out. You know, I hit the cardio machine. and I burn it out until I feel better. Because, again, you gotta find a way to focus that energy. We just call it anger, but it is a welling up of energy that we have in that present moment. And it’s a way of shifting that focus of where, if you’re calling it angry, you can be less angry. You can learn to manage your emotions and really change how you feel.
Life is like this. It’s gonna boil down to four words.
If you say so.
So if you’re saying that you’re angry, you’re just gonna get more angry. So just check what you’re saying.
Elin B.: Ah! Check what you’re saying. Check what you’re thinking. And I think you hit it on the head too, by saying that there’s this empowering action you can take by owning it and deciding to react a different way. I think a lot of people … So, like I said, I don’t really spend a lot of time watching the news or anything, because that, you know, if something’s gonna upset you, it’s gonna be that. But I think a lot of people feel, like dis-empowered with all the crazy political stuff that’s going on. But, you know, when things happen externally, that we really don’t have control over, we always do have the control over how we react to it, and what we do with the information. And I think maybe another way to say what you’re saying is that to focus on that power that we do have, and see what you can do with it.
Jeoffrey H.: Right, you’ve been conditioned to believe that you are a powerless being. And that is not true at all. That’s just been the biggest lie that has been perpetrated on us.
Elin B.: What do you mean? Oh, I’m sorry. But what do you mean by that? We’ve been conditioned to believe that.
Jeoffrey H.: Well, you’ve been conditioned to look outside of yourself for love, acceptance, and approval. And as long as you look outside of yourself for those things, you are going to continue to believe that you are powerless. You know, again, life is either two things. Something to feel good about or something to feel bad about. I’m using my political beliefs to feel bad. I’m using my financial beliefs, my financial situation, to feel bad. I’m using my body weight, my body condition, to feel bad. Who the hell told you that there was one perfect thing? Because now, see … Okay, see, we’re going there.
Okay, some people might get offended, and I really don’t care, but it’s just a fact of life.
You are so free and you are so empowered that you have chosen bondage.
So, when you have an idea about a spiritual belief system, a religious belief system that says that there is something greater than you, that you are not a part of, here’s where that doesn’t make any sense. Because if we’re gonna call this energy of creation … Whatever name you want to call it. If this energy created everything and this energy is perfect, then that means you are perfect too. Because how can a perfect energy create something that’s flawed. It can’t! And so now, if you are a part of that energy, then you just need to pay attention to what you are creating with this life because it is all here for you.
Look. Life is this magnificent kitchen, with all of these different ingredients, and how you can create a magnificent and magical life. But just because you are creating a dish, does not mean every ingredient needs to go in it! There’s a particular way that I like my chili. And that’s just the way that I make my chili. That’s the way that I season it, the way that I cook and let it marinate. This is a good-ass chili for me. But you don’t need to come up in my kitchen, sticking your thumb on my chili, talking about it doesn’t taste right. Something’s wrong with it. No, no, no, no, no! This is my chili. Get your thumb out of my chili, because this is what is good for me. I’m not saying that it has to be good for you.
And that’s where we get into that dynamic. Because since we’re looking outside of ourselves for love, acceptance, and approval, we’re always asking somebody, “Okay, well here’s the rules and according to this, am I doing it right?” You’re never comfortable with your own choices. And let me tell you, you are doing it right. Pay attention to how you feel. If you don’t like how you feel, change it and do something else, because here’s that piece again. When you pay attention to how you feel. When you are at peace with yourself, this is where you get inspiration on how you can create the life that you want, and how you are living your dream.
I have an acronym for dream. It is your direct reality expressed and manifesting. It’s not a trick question. You look at your life and you see where it is right now. And please understand, where you are right now does not matter. It’s where you’re going that you want to keep more into your mind, more into your steps, because that’s what’s more important. Where you are right now does not matter. But it’s that conditioning again that if you don’t have this, if you don’t have this, if you don’t look like this, there must be something wrong with you. Look. There is nothing wrong with you. As I share that with people all the time.
There is nothing wrong with you at all. How healed would you be when you stop believing that you are sick?